I’ve been in something of a slump lately. Nothing’s particularly wrong; I’m just in one of those moods where I’d rather be hibernating and hanging out with myself than out and about in the world around me. These moods never last long but they’re always a bit frustrating when they come around.

What I’ve noticed is that these moods are a bit more frustrating when living in San Francisco than they are when living somewhere less interesting. I think that’s because there are always so many sexy things that I want to do here that I feel like I’m really missing out if I don’t get out and do them. In contrast, I don’t really feel like I miss much when I’m hanging out in Tucson and not going out to fancy events because just hanging out is a standard day in Tucson.

It’s harder to get excited about doing something sexy here when you’re not feeling it, too. A lot of the sexy things that there are to do here do require a lot of energy. There are costumes to be put together. There are people to connect with. There are sexy games to play. It takes a lot of work and if you’re not feeling sexy then that work can feel like a bit too much.

So what do you do here when you’re not feeling sexy but you don’t want to be left out either? Here are a few of my tricks to get through times like these:

• Go to something more quietly sexy. The great thing about San Francisco is that there are many different levels of sexy here. Don’t feel like going to a play party or checking out a burlesque show? Maybe a sexy glass of wine or a sexy movie is a better choice right now.
• Do something sexy alone. Being around a lot of people can be draining during moods like these. Find something sexy here that you can do alone. Hit up Good Vibes for a new toy or book of erotica, for example.
• Remember that other sexy things are right around the corner. Sometimes you really do just need to burrow into your own hole and deal with yourself. Don’t fret; there is always something sexy to do in San Francisco so even if you miss out today you’re going to find a whole sexy world waiting for you when you re-emerge.
• Get away. Maybe you just need to get away for a little bit. Go to a place that’s about more frumpy. Put on your sweats and go shopping at Wal-Mart with your mom for a few days. You’ll probably discover that you’re ready to get right back into sexy San Francisco life when you return.

It’s not fun being in these un-sexy moods but they don’t have to get the best of you either!

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